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SINO B SA KANILA? Choosing Mr. / Ms. Right

Nowadays, committing yourself to someone is a very tough decision any person can make. Why? Because once you are committed to someone it is like giving your whole to that person. You’ll never know if that person deserves the tough choice you have made. There were only few relationships that really last. Sometimes you thought that person is the one who is really meant for you, just because of the fact that you two have been together for almost a century, not thinking that you’ll wake up one morning, surviving each day without that person. Commitment is like eating ice cream. When the flavor didn’t suit your tongue, you’ll spit it and try another one. It’s a waste of time. So before committing to someone, like eating ice cream you must know what flavor will compliment your tongue. There were best friends of broken heart because they were blinded by the flavor. Some thought they have found the right flavor but still searching for someone. You thought he / she is your flavor because:

“He / She is the man / woman of your dreams” – Often we settle for image rather than actually falling in love with a person. Sometimes even though you are truly madly in love with a person, you just tend to stop because he / she is not the one you want and have been dreaming for all your life. He / she didn’t pass the standard you set for yourself. He / she is not a “crush ng bayan”. He / she is just a big nobody. You’ll settle more to someone which has been ignoring your existence ever since. It’s because of the fact that he / she is the prince charming / princess you have been capturing in your mind since your childhood days.

“You two were so bagay to each other” – No matter how alike your interests are, or how picture-perfect you look side-by-side, doesn’t mean that you’ll be satisfied with the deeper aspects of your relationship. Sometimes it can be a great factor of loosing the relationship because “pagkasawa” is really a big barrier in any relationship. When you two were of the same interest, there’s no new every time you’re together. It’s like “as always”. You two won’t have a chance to learn something new. Your lives will just always be the two of you. Many misconceptions were when the two have been friends for almost a decade they were meant for each other which is really a big stupidity. Only few relationships that were super friends at the start, succeeded.

“He / She is madly in love with me” – Some people argue that you can learn to love someone if that someone truly loves you. Love, however, involves two person; it’s a two way street. You will hardly find true happiness in a love relationship if you cannot equally return the love you are receiving from your mate. It’s not called commitment if the of you don’t feel the same. It’s hard to give yourself to someone you don’t love at all. If you commit yourself to someone who really loves you despite of the fact that you don’t love him at all, it won’t still work. Because that person is the only who will sacrifice everything for that so-called relationship.

“Your family and friends love him / her” – You are not here to satisfy your family. It’s not them who will be with that person for such long period of time. No one can say where you will be happy or what will make you happy because you are the only who really know it. It’s you who can feel it. Most of the times those who were liked by your family for you were not the one who can really make you happy.

“You just don’t want to be alone” – The fear of spending your whole life without someone can consume you and drive you to make a decision to stay and stick out in a bad relationship. It can also lead you to choose to be in a relationship with someone totally wrong for you. The worst thing is it can drive you to make choices that are bound to cause you pain and heartache in the long run. There’s nothing wrong being alone if that’s what it should be. Commitment is not for company only. Committing should have deeper aspects. Above these all what really should matter most is what you feel inside. Despite of the fact that you two were different from each other you two must continue trying its what commitment really should be. Giving your half or maybe your whole to someone. Loving is not because of something. It’s what inside your heart. You don’t say i love you because………When you are loving someone it’s because you really love that person. That’s why it’s just simply I love you. Nothing follows….